Hey lovelies, How are you all doing?
I know this is coming late, but, better late than never right?
HAPPY EASTER!! I had a beautiful Easter celebration in church. You do realize that the death and resurrection of Christ is the bedrock of Christianity yeah? Because without His death and most importantly His resurrection, we wouldn’t have the life we have now “…..I came that they may have life, and may have it abundantly. (John 10:10)”
So, be full of joy and peace because He has won the victory for YOU!
Unto the subject matter of today….
I wrote about something similar to today’s post before but this is a little different. I shared with you on how to kill time but I got lots of emails asking for more, so I will to go a little more in-depth, today I’m gonna be sharing with you ways to stay strong while celibate.
It can get really hard sometimes – or most times – and because sexual desire is something we can barely escape, we need things or in some cases people, to be our rock during those weak moments – obviously our ultimate rock is God.
Some people might not need this, if you’re capable of doing it on your own and you believe you’re strong enough to keep yourself going without the help of these tips I’m about to share, that’s fine – it’s all about knowing what works best for you.
Let’s go ahead shall we?
Yeah Yeah, I know you might not want to hear this one but honestly, you’ll need it. Pray to the Lord when you feel like your energy is being drained and you can’t take it no more. Basically, pray without ceasing, don’t even wait till you’re feeling weak to pray, pray even in your strongest moments. But you gotta realize that prayer alone wouldn’t cut it, you have to make up your mind to OBEY and in most cases you have to FLEE as well. You can’t get down on your knees, pray and then go put yourself in a compromising situation.
Getting an ornament that reminds you of your journey could be of great help in times of temptation or when you feel like giving up or in most cases giving in. Having something on you that reminds you of the choice you’ve made, is a great way to staying strong. You could get a ring, necklace, something you hang in your room, etc. Although, I’ll personally lean towards something I can always have on me, like a bracelet or a ring. In fact, this is great because you might go on a date with someone that takes notice of the ornament and ask about it, which gives you a great opportunity bring up the topic. Hallelujah!
JOINING A GROUP
Now, this can be quite helpful. Having people who are walking the same path as you are, tell you about their challenges and benefits could really help you when you’re finding it difficult to keep going and deprive yourself of your sexual needs. Join a group that you can be real with – and vice versa – and actually discuss “real” and honest things that go on with you. Don’t stay in a group that will judge you about mistakes you make. Most times hearing stories of people who are going through the same thing as you are – or at least something you want to pursue – has a way of motivating you. Here’s a link to the previous post containing beautiful stories of people on this celibacy journey. It could be an online group or a group where you all meet to talk.
This blog is also a group/community, feel free to vent and share whatever you’d like. we’re here to help each other.
Have someone you are accountable to. Could be a friend, a parent, pastor, mentor – just make sure the person is in total support of this journey you’re taking and preferably has gone through or is going through the same thing. Someone you can really be free and open with and definitely a nonjudgmental person.
Yass!! Think of it as a way to be selfish, learn who you are. become better, work on new/unfinished projects and before you know it, people will begin to see you differently – or, see you for who you truly are – and you will most definitely become more attractive to the opposite sex. Yay!
Oh yes boo, set reward days for yourself. For example, you decide you will give yourself a shopping spree or maybe go on vacation when you get to 6 months, this can help you keep at it, because you know you’re going to get something soon enough for your hard work.
DO IT DURING THE DAY
Day time dates is a great way to save yourself from any unwanted situation – not that there’s anything wrong with night dates, like I said, whatever works best for you. Y’all know the kinda feelings we tend to get at night – oh please, don’t pretend here – so why not try day time dates and see how it goes.
It helps to write down the decisions you have made and your reasons. Yes know them, but having them written down somewhere – a place you’ll always have access to – keeps you more committed. It’s the same as having your goals written down somewhere and reading them to keep the fire burning.
You can also write down some of your struggles and triumphs. For instance, you’re finding it really hard to continue on the journey, you could write down how you’re feeling or you happen to overcome a temptation; write down how you overcame it and how you felt about it.
You can always go back to the book and read to boost your confidence and also see how far you’ve come.
BE WITH SOMEONE THAT HAS THE SAME VALUES AS YOU DO IN REGARDS TO CELIBACY.
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Sommy – XO