It ain’t easy and we all know that. I’ve posted a few helpful tips on things to implement in your life to make your journey of celibacy a little bit easier.
It’d be ignorant to think abstaining from sex will be a breeze and who better to turn to than the One who instructed us to save sex for marriage? We all know God is the master planner right? So if He wants us to wait to have sex after marriage then there must be a reason probably beyond our comprehension for that. Why not trust Him – if you believe and worship him?
So open up your bibles (or read the verses here – as you wish) and let’s dive into these beautiful scriptures.
NOTE: If there’s a bible version you prefer, please feel free to use that instead.
1 Thessalonians 4:3-4
It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; 4 that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable. (NIV)
Continue reading “10 Bible Verses To Help You When You’re Struggling With Celibacy.”
No one likes to talk about it.
Most people don’t believe this even exists.
But as always, I’m here to give you a reality check!
TOPIC: SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED DEMONS AKA SPIRITUALLY TRANSMITTED DISEASES
DEFINITION: A SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED DISORDER WHEREBY A DEMON DOMINATES AND RESIDES IN AN INDIVIDUAL AS A RESULT OF THAT INDIVIDUAL HAVING SEX WITH A DEMON CARRYING INDIVIDUAL(S).
PREVENTION: ABSTAINING FROM PREMATURE SEX
TREATMENT: A COVENANT STRONGER THAN THAT OF THE COVENANT OF SEX.
Continue reading “Sexually Transmitted Demons”
Ever started your journey and then made a mistake? Got tempted and gave in? Felt like it was the right thing to do at that moment? And now you feel like you have to start all over again?
Worry no more, I’m here to help.
Now, have a brief reflection on how it all went down – don’t go too far – just a brief reflection. What transpired before everything went south? Did you just watch a racy movie together? Had a few too many drinks? Cuddled a little too much?
We have to realize that sex doesn’t just happen. It takes series of events to lead up to that moment. Those series of events are what you should avoid.
Continue reading “5 Things That Will Mess You Up”
So you’ve been waiting for so long and it seems like nothing is happening.
The lady or man of your dreams hasn’t found you yet.
Nothing seems to be progressing.
The loneliness keeps creeping in.
And you ask yourself, “Is the wait worth it?”
Continue reading “Don’t Stop! It’s working…”
Shhhhh, don’t tell anyone.
Today I’m gonna do a book review. Yes!!
If you haven’t been living under a rock you’d have heard of the book THE WAIT written by DeVon Franklin and Meagan Good.
Continue reading “Finding The Love Of Your Life.”
Today’s post is quite an interesting one, believe me it is.
I did something new for this post.
I interviewed a couple of people who have been celibate for some time.
I want to let sexually active unmarried people know that life without sex isn’t as bad as they think.
So I’ve gathered short stories of people who have gone/are going through celibacy, their struggles, how they cope “without sex” and the benefits of celibacy in their life.
Let’s get right to it.
For me making a conscious decision to be celibate till I got married was about 3 years ago, before that time I had so many opportunities, the ones I sought out for and the ones I was given on a silver platter. Life for me has been a wild roller coaster; I miss intimacy with a lady, the cuddles, waking up by her side and all that. For me, that is the hardest part of being celibate but the dividends are lovely; I have learnt self control and it has helped in so many areas of my life.
For instance, you meet a lady and she’s all there physically. The bosom and bottoms are perfect with the humility (boys love that) and then you think something might happen and may even want it to happen but you stay low because of your celibacy vow and later find out things about the lady and you just know your celibacy just saved you from a big mess.
I have also learnt to develop healthy relationships especially with the opposite sex and I think that is priceless. There’s a kind of friendship you can only get when you learn to see a lady as a friend and not a sex object to conquer.
Continue reading “LIFE WITHOUT SEX – HOW BAD COULD IT BE? || PART 1”
Hey lovelies, so I’ve being thinking…does abstaining from sex guarantee an exceptional sex life when one finally gets married?
Usually this is how we think the whole purity thing should play out, “I waited and kept my heart and legs closed now I am married, let the 50 shades sex life begin..“(Drums rolling) and most people are so disappointed because it never ever happens like that. Then they are wondering if they erred by waiting.
First, there are no guarantees in life. So inadvertently waiting does not and cannot guarantee an exceptional sex life after one has married. I know you are wondering then why wait? Remember this post
gave at least 7 reasons why you should wait.
Before we answer the question appropriately, there are a few things I want to bring to your mind. There are a lot of real life stories out there of people who really waited and were sorely disappointed about their sexual experience and some even say they wished they had tested and known if they were compatible. And this is the major basis for the argument against abstinence till marriage movement.
But here is the problem to that argument, human beings are creatures of habit and not experimental beings, meaning you can’t just go around experimenting with different people. Your physiology was not wired that way, rather you take memories with you from every experience and with that you inadvertently find yourself comparing every experience you have and planning for the next experience. That’s why it becomes almost impossible for such people to be faithful (no pun intended) because humans are creatures of habit, so there will always be a comparison and a desire for a new experience.
Nevertheless, the wait movement has also not been truly honest. It makes it look like you are going to have an amazing sex life, once you just wait. That is crap (excuse my french).
Sexual compatibility takes time and practice, but the beauty in waiting or remaining celibate before the experience is, you get to explore higher vistas of intimacy with someone and enjoy a beautiful journey of discipline and continual learning with that special someone.
I think before two celibate individuals decide to get married they should be willing to sit and talk and be honest with each other. That from the beginning, sex between them is not going to be as exhilarating and erotic like 50 shades (he is not even your Christian) but they are willing to learn and be patient with each other and growing together and that it will take a lot of time.
There is no magic wand that is waved over anyone’s head to have an amazing sex life just because you waited, and usually thinking like that makes it look like the only reason why you waited was for sex, but I think there are other important factors that makes waiting worth it.
Continue reading “DOES CELIBACY ENSURE A WONDERFUL SEX LIFE AFTER MARRIAGE? || GUEST POST”