Don’t Stop! It’s working…

do-not-give-up-2015253_640

So you’ve been waiting for so long and it seems like nothing is happening.

The lady or man of your dreams hasn’t found you yet.

Nothing seems to be progressing.

The loneliness keeps creeping in.

And you ask yourself, “Is the wait worth it?”

 

Continue reading “Don’t Stop! It’s working…”

LIFE WITHOUT SEX – HOW BAD COULD IT BE? || PART 1

Hi people.

Today’s post is quite an interesting one, believe me it is.

I did something new for this post.

I interviewed a couple of people who have been celibate for some time.

My reason?

I want to let sexually active unmarried people know that life without sex isn’t as bad as they think.

So I’ve gathered short stories of people who have gone/are going through celibacy, their struggles, how they cope “without sex” and the benefits of celibacy in their life.

Let’s get right to it.

For me making a conscious decision to be celibate till I got married was about 3 years ago, before that time I had so many opportunities, the ones I sought out for and the ones I was given on a silver platter. Life for me has been a wild roller coaster; I miss intimacy with a lady, the cuddles, waking up by her side and all that. For me, that is the hardest part of being celibate but the dividends are lovely; I have learnt self control and it has helped in so many areas of my life.

For instance, you meet a lady and she’s all there physically. The bosom and bottoms are perfect with the humility (boys love that) and then you think something might happen and may even want it to happen but you stay low because of your celibacy vow and later find out things about the lady and you just know your celibacy just saved you from a big mess.

I have also learnt to develop healthy relationships especially with the opposite sex and I think that is priceless. There’s a kind of friendship you can only get when you learn to see a lady as a friend and not a sex object to conquer.

Continue reading “LIFE WITHOUT SEX – HOW BAD COULD IT BE? || PART 1”

DOES CELIBACY ENSURE A WONDERFUL SEX LIFE AFTER MARRIAGE? || GUEST POST

skeletal-601213_640
Hey lovelies, so I’ve being thinking…does abstaining from sex guarantee an exceptional sex life when one finally gets married?
Usually this is how we think the whole purity thing should play out, “I waited and kept my heart and legs closed now I am married, let the 50 shades sex life begin..“(Drums rolling) and most people are so disappointed because it never ever happens like that. Then they are wondering if they erred by waiting.
First, there are no guarantees in life. So inadvertently waiting does not and cannot guarantee an exceptional sex life after one has married. I know you are wondering then why wait? Remember this post gave at least 7 reasons why you should wait.
Before we answer the question appropriately, there are a few things I want to bring to your mind. There are a lot of real life stories out there of people who really waited and were sorely disappointed about their sexual experience and some even say they wished they had tested and known if they were compatible. And this is the major basis for the argument against abstinence till marriage movement.
But here is the problem to that argument, human beings are creatures of habit and not experimental beings, meaning you can’t just go around experimenting with different people. Your physiology was not wired that way, rather you take memories with you from every experience and with that you inadvertently find yourself comparing every experience you have and planning for the next experience. That’s why it becomes almost impossible for such people to be faithful (no pun intended) because humans are creatures of habit, so there will always be a comparison and a desire for a new experience.
white-1822497_640
Nevertheless, the wait movement has also not been truly honest. It makes it look like you are going to have an amazing sex life, once you just wait. That is crap (excuse my french).
Sexual compatibility takes time and practice, but the beauty in waiting or remaining celibate before the experience is, you get to explore higher vistas of intimacy with someone and enjoy a beautiful journey of discipline and continual learning with that special someone.
I think before two celibate individuals decide to get married they should be willing to sit and talk and be honest with each other. That from the beginning, sex between them is not going to be as exhilarating and erotic like 50 shades (he is not even your Christian) but they are willing to learn and be patient with each other and growing together and that it will take a lot of time.
There is no magic wand that is waved over anyone’s head to have an amazing sex life just because you waited, and usually thinking like that makes it look like the only reason why you waited was for sex, but I think there are other important factors that makes waiting worth it.
wedding-night-1116722_640

Continue reading “DOES CELIBACY ENSURE A WONDERFUL SEX LIFE AFTER MARRIAGE? || GUEST POST”

8 QUESTIONS TO ASK BEFORE SAYING YES

couple-1845620_640

 

When it comes to dating, most people feel shy to ask certain questions. They don’t want to come off as too desperate. They really like the person, so they don’t want to ruin the possibility of a relationship by asking  questions that’ll open up a Pandora’s box. Some are scared of the answers they might receive.

Continue reading “8 QUESTIONS TO ASK BEFORE SAYING YES”

I THINK I WANT TO MOVE IN WITH MY BOYFRIEND…

couple-1030744_640

Hmmm, this is a huge one.

I know it’s your life and your business but can I interrupt a little bit?

Finding it hard to talk about this because so many people do this and it’s seen as no big deal.

Should you move in with your boyfriend/girlfriend?

Continue reading “I THINK I WANT TO MOVE IN WITH MY BOYFRIEND…”